So you suspect they have a crush, but you're not completely sure. We've all been there at some point. And while it can be tricky to know if someone is crushing on you with 100% certainty, there are clues. Look for these signs that somebody has a crush on you.
They Stare at You a Lot
Your potential love interest stares at you while you are in the middle of something or talking to someone. They may look away when you catch them staring at you, or they might hold eye contact as if they're trying to memorize your features.
They Smile When They See You
Smiling can be involuntary when there's genuine elation about seeing someone. Pay close attention if the smile encompasses their entire face, lighting up their eyes. Big, genuine smiles show happiness and can indicate a crush.
They Give You a Saucy Wink
While it's true that friends can wink at each other without it indicating attraction, you might wonder what it means when they wink at you. If the person doesn't generally wink at others but starts picking up the habit of winking at you playfully, this can indicate flirtatious behavior resulting from a crush.
They Laugh at Your Jokes (Even When You're Not Funny)
An increase in laughing or giggling at your jokes or just in normal conversations can signal romantic feelings or nervousness about being near a crush. People with crushes want the person to whom they're attracted to feel good about themselves and the time spent together, making laughter and lightheartedness a good indication of attraction.
They're Interested in Your Life
They become overly interested in your hobbies and your close friends. It is a way for them to get closer to you, know more about you, and open up potential future conversations.
They Act Differently Than When You First Met Them
When you first met this person, they may have acted much differently than they do now. This behavior change is usually dramatic, and there is no mistaking that something has changed. Sometimes, behavior changes when a person realizes an attraction is there, particularly when they realize it's evolved into a full-blown crush.
They Find Reasons to Talk to You
You may receive calls or texts to ask you a simple question that they could have found the answer to elsewhere much more easily. Your crush probably craves more interactions with you and will find excuses for them.
They Spend More Time Around You
This person suddenly changes their plans to spend more time with you. Your potential love interest may make excuses so you will spend more time with them. If you look at your schedule and suddenly realize the other person has worked their way into most of your days or evenings, this can be a good indication that it's intentional because they want to be with you.
They Seem to Pop Up Everywhere
You start running into your friend in places you normally never see them, especially if you visit that place frequently. If you share locations on social media, there's a chance they keep an eye on this or perhaps ask friends where you'll be.
They Invite You to Make Future Plans
Your friend invites you to events in the future. This is a good way to ensure that you are available later on so they can spend additional time with you. The more effort they put into spending time with you, the better the chances that there's a crush there.
They Look for Excuses to Touch You
Your potential love interest starts to touch you on the arm, back, or hand more than normal while talking. This is a primal desire to connect with you since they have a crush on you.
They Ask Your Friends About You
If you have a friend who is also close to the suspected love interest, they can ask about interest in you. Usually done without the person thinking you know anything about it, this person can say something like, "I noticed you are acting different, do you have a crush on them?" Alternatively, if you notice the other person's friends asking you about your feelings, it may be that they're fulfilling a request from the person who has a crush on you.
What to Do When You Know They Have a Crush
If you answered yes to most of the above attributes, then you probably have someone who likes you romantically. Now, it is up to you what you want to do with this information. If you feel the same way, this is your chance to move forward.
Let Them Know You Feel the Same Way
Of course, you may still be afraid that you're wrong about how the other person feels about you, so move slowly. Give the person more attention and notice the reaction. Start making plans with the person and use some of the same attributes above to show that you are interested as well.
Let Them Down Easily
Alternatively, if you don't want to move forward, try to find ways to let your love interest know you aren't interested. Simply avoid some of the advances, such as changing your schedule or hurrying conversations because you have somewhere else to go. After some time, they'll either understand or grow tired of the chase since you aren't feeding into it.
Is a Crush Love?
A crush can mean different things to different people. For some, "I have a crush," actually means, "I'm falling in love." Most frequently, however, a crush indicates an attraction and a desire to get to know someone better. An initial crush can easily evolve into something more or can result in a friendship; there's no way to predict the trajectory of any relationship starting with a crush. Remember that feelings can change and attraction can wane, so crushes can certainly be temporary.
